I spent time with a good friend recently, who needed a good vent — you know, the kind of release where you actually admit the things you do every day (usually for everyone else!) and secretly hate.

The conversation started innocently enough, but it quickly pivoted into a list of everything she hates, which included:

• Doomscrolling on social media (for hours!!!)
• Grabbing something (unhealthy) to eat, because she’s busy and tired (and immediately regretting it)
• Saying “Yes” — when she really means “NO”
• Shaving her legs (because others expect it!!!)
• “Just one bite” turning into finishing the whole packet of biscuits/crisps

We did have a laugh, but underneath the laughter was something else — a constant feeling of exhaustion, because these random habits are tiny ways that we put ourselves last.

1. Make Time For Yourself

This drain on your time and energy isn’t always obvious and hides in the small, everyday habits that feel harmless, but are quietly taking more than they give.  For example, you might think it’s just a bit of scrolling, but those moments add up and drain your energy by:

• Wasting your time
• Distracting your focus
• Triggering your anxiety (which is what algorithms are programmed to do!)

So, at some point, it becomes important to ask yourself a more grounded question: what is your time actually worth? When you consider your energy, attention and mental space as valuable resources, you begin to see how casually they’re spent.

Comparing the value of an hour of your life to how you actually use it can be confronting, especially when much of it disappears in habits that don’t support you or move you forward. This awareness isn’t about judgement, but about creating a different standard for how you treat your time.

If it helps, make time for yourself by putting an appointment each day in your diary to do something for your wellbeing that makes you feel good. And try not to fill your schedule up every weekend — leave clear at least one weekend a month with NO plans, so that YOU can do what YOU want.

2. Learn To Say NO

For instance, when you say yes when you really means no, the cost is rarely immediate, but it builds quietly over time. Each unnecessary commitment takes a slice of your energy, focus and patience, leaving less available for the things that genuinely matter to you — like feeling more fit and healthy. When you feel overwhelmed or resentful, because you couldn’t say no, you override your own needs in favour of others’ expectations and erode your self trust and confidence. 

3. Get Fed

Make sure that you eat something healthy and nutritious — 3 times a day — BEFORE you become’overwhelmed and end up running on empty.

Prioritising yourself is not about overhauling your life overnight. It starts with small consistent changes that build over time. When you continue to choose yourself in these moments, you begin to build an identity that no longer treats your wellbeing as optional — and that is where real lasting change begins.

If you need some extra help in implementing little changes to help you prioritise yourself, which will reap bigger rewards for your body, then I can help with my FREE All About You Call. CLICK HERE to book your spots (spaces are limited!) or CLICK HERE TO FIND OUT MORE.

Love, Gaynor x